Wedding Invitation Wording and Etiquette


What is the best way to invite someone to your wedding? How do we include all the details without jumbling up our words, or run the risk of sounding informal and awkward? Finding the perfect wording for your invitation doesn't have to be difficult! Below we are sharing a little "how to" and a few guidelines to help you out!

First things first: The anatomy of the invitation.

Wedding invitations follow a certain model that includes all the information your guests will need to know. The invitation is stacked by information. Think of it as a formula.

  1. Host line - Who is hosting the wedding? Use the first and last names of the parents that are hosting. If both are hosting, use "together with their families."

  2. Request line - You want the person receiving your invitation to be at your...? Ceremony? Reception only? Making it clear about what event will be taking place helps to define the dress code.

  3. Names of the bride and groom - Brides' name is first, followed by the groom's.

  4. Date and time - In a formal invitation, both date and time are spelled out.

  5. Location - You don't have to include the address. Simply putting the location name followed by the city and state will be enough.

  6. Reception location/Additional Details/Dress Code - This line is optional! One of my favorites, though, is "dinner and dancing to follow!"

Now that you have all the details, you can decide on what exact wording is going to be best!

The wording is best related to the formality of the event. This allows some wiggle room, but here are a few etiquette rules and tips to keep in mind:

  • When the ceremony is being held in a religious building, the request line should use the word "honor" while an informal ceremony venue takes the word "pleasure." Example: "Mr. and Mrs. Jason request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter..." versus "Mr. and Mrs. James Smith request the pleasure of your company at..."

  • If the wedding is hosted by the brides' family, it is traditional to have her first and middle names followed by the groom's full name. Of course, depending on preference, as long as the names are on there you're good to go!

  • Location line-wise, if the location is hard to find, by all means, choose to include the address! You don't want your guests plugging it into Maps and ending up at the wrong place.

  • For very formal occasions, reception information is included on a separate card.

  • Semi-custom invitation suites by Gracefully Made allow for you to change the wording to whatever you want! We get this question a lot and the answer is, of course!

Check out the photos before to see some examples of different wording!

We hope that this post helps answer the wedding invitation wording questions you have! Follow the formula, and you can't go wrong.


Melissa Gullatte